lifeofascholar asked: I came through fall 2011 and got a wonderful big that has changed my life. My best friend/sister in chapter got a big that was perfect for her. When her big got an internship, she felt left out in chapter & asked for a temp big, a god-big. The chapter gave her MY big as a god-big and now, those two are inseparable and it's like I don't exist anymore. If we were twins from the get go, okay. I don't feel it's fair to me & it's ruining our friendship & my relationship with my big. I'm stuck. Help!
First of all this sucks and I’m really sorry you feel left out and that your relationship with your big is being ruined. I can relate because my Big is now someone else’s big as well and I feel like they have a lot more history and things in common. What I did was made an effort to spend time with each of them separately to find something that connected us. That worked for a while but at one point I confronted my Big and just told her how I was feeling. Maybe you should try that too. Just be honest with your Big and tell her how you’re feeling. I’m sure she isn’t doing it on purpose and would much rather know than let you continue feeling the way you do.
Does anyone have any advice for lifeofascholar or similar experiences with this sort of thing?